Stop People Pleasing in your Relationships
10 week program with Melissa
Improve your relationship with yourself and with others by learning the skills to stop people pleasing, lean into the discomfort of showing yourself and and be able to handle when things get tough.
Once you learn how to do this, you'll be so much more confident with who you are and you'll develop such deeper wonderful relationships with others.
What does people pleasing in your relationships look like?
you are afraid to fully show yourself in case someone will get mad at you
you do things you don’t want to in order to maintain the peace
you avoid conflicts or hard conversations to not rock the boat
you don’t maintain your boundaries in order to make sure the other person feels okay
You do this because you’re afraid if you express yourself, something bad would happen: either you would be left, or you will be yelled at, or you would make someone mad at you (and that feels like a really bad thing in your mind).
This causes you to feel anxious that if you do show yourself or have conflict you’ll be left (and never find anyone else and die alone in the gutter. Yes, our brains are dramatic.) You are also resentful that you can’t be yourself in the relationship - the other person isn’t letting you be yourself or you are mad at yourself for not having the courage to fully express yourself
This is no way to live.
And think about it… you’re wasting your life by not being true to yourself.
You’re not helping the other person by pretending to be okay when you’re not or pushing away your true feelings.
But what if you could…
…build your dream relationship and life by having hard conversations, being vulnerable, expressing yourself fully, and risking that people may not like what you have to say….
And trusting that you’ll be okay no matter what.
By being vulnerable and being yourself, you will feel so much more free!
By learning to stop people pleasing, you will:
stop doing things you don’t want to do
learn to enjoy doing things for others out of love (and not resentment that you have to do it to make them feel okay)
maintain your boundaries in a loving and calm way and stop reacting (outwardly or in your head) from a place of resentment.
If you:
Already are living in fear that people will be mad at you
Feel resentment because you think your partner/friends/anyone doesn’t respect you
Can’t express yourself out of fear or anxiety that something bad will happen if you do
If you want to feel:
Total trust in yourself that you can be yourself no matter what
That you know what to do with any emotion that comes up for you
Confident in your decisions and boundary setting
Calm and peaceful with who you are instead of feeling like you need to apologize or people please to make others like you more
Loving towards yourself and others in your interactions
Able to sit with the discomfort of other people’s reactions
Maybe you’ve already tried so many other tactics and think it won’t work for you.
But you haven’t tried these three tactics to get there.
It may feel impossible, but if you are reading this it means you stil have hope that you are able tochagne.
It will take some work and it will cause you to feel uncomfortable.
But if you’re willing to feel a little discomfort NOW to improve the rest of your life, then you are going to make the change. Your life will change for the better.
People pleasing comes from a need to control the outcome.
But it comes at a price too.
Living in anxiety and resentment feels terrible. It affects your physical, mental and emotional health by living in misery.
By learning to stop people pleasing:
You can lose the therapy bills of $100-150/week because you learn the tools to coach yourself, relieve your own anxiety for life!
You’ll stop living in anxiety and fear in all aspects of your life
You’ll learn to trust yourself and improve your relationships
Plus, by helping yourself and improving your mindset, you can be happier and healthier - less doctors visit over the years.
This is the power behind learning who you are and how to express it, learning to let go of the outcomes and learning to trust yourself that you can handle any outcome no matter what.
Stop people pleasing program
Learn what you want to say and build the self trust and confidence to move through the fear and anxiety that comes up.
We’ll work together 1 on 1 for 10 weeks to get to the bottom of your people pleasing tendencies and change them.
Here’s what you get:
1 hour-long session each week on Zoom
Daily email support with issues that come up
Weekly worksheets to work thru your emotions that come and how to move past it and build new patterns.
Investment: $1475
BUT get $500 off if you sign up before 3/2!
So it will be $975.
Or 3 monthly payments of $325.
You’re not just getting one hour/week from me. You’re kicking your old patterns and learning new habits that will help you the rest of your life!
These skills are what I learned in order to stop my people pleasing tendencies.
I used to always people please in all my relationships. I still do sometimes, but I have 100x more confidence and self trust that if I say something someone doesn’t like, I can react from a place of confidence in who I am and hold my ground.
I’ve spent thousands of dollars on personal coaching over the years and it’s been so critical in my self-expression, confidence, calmness and self-trust.
I’ve learned to accept myself, trust myself and be so much more confident with myself. I’ve also been so much more outgoing and able to express and share myself so much more.
I guarantee I would not be this far in my life if I didn’t have coaching to guide me and get me there faster.
So what’s more worth it: staying the same or making a change that will improve your emotional life and your relationships with everyone in your life?